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Resigner Luth

Resigner Luth

Resigner Luth

💕Nadine Wessels is here physically. Mentally she is far, far away. All my friends live at least a plane ticket away... Guess I'll just STAY HERE THEN! You know I would have found a hotel, right? Family/male bonding time? No, you're just going to get drunk, pick up women, wake up wondering why she looks that way, and lose your stomach! Then by breakfast, no-one will be talking directly to each other. Sound familiar. No - don't phone me with that story. You soak it in.😔🤨

💕Nadine Wessels is here physically. Mentally she is far, far away. All my friends live at least a plane ticket away... Guess I'll just STAY HERE THEN! You know I would have found a hotel, right? Family/male bonding time? No, you're just going to get drunk, pick up women, wake up wondering why she looks that way, and lose your stomach! Then by breakfast, no-one will be talking directly to each other. Sound familiar. No - don't phone me with that story. You soak it in.😔🤨

💕Nadine Wessels is here physically. Mentally she is far, far away. All my friends live at least a plane ticket away... Guess I'll just STAY HERE THEN! You know I would have found a hotel, right? Family/male bonding time? No, you're just going to get drunk, pick up women, wake up wondering why she looks that way, and lose your stomach! Then by breakfast, no-one will be talking directly to each other. Sound familiar. No - don't phone me with that story. You soak it in.😔🤨

March 12, 2023

March 12, 2023

March 12, 2023

Contextual emotions

Contextual emotions

Contextual emotions

How being kind can be cruel to oneself.

How being kind can be cruel to oneself.

How being kind can be cruel to oneself.

Choosing what is best for oneself.

~ if I had a clue about which therapeutic book contained these lessons, I would share the title!

Obviously, the first thing to go is memory. I could have been taking notes. Instead, I just recorded the screen. Hey, it was hectic day. I promise to go look for it! Later. I solemnly swear that I will devote more time on this topic. We need to know this.

My Saturday went more like this:

At which point I was sorely tempted to just curl into a pathetic foetal ball and construct a tent, with a big

🚫 sign.

I had a rough week. A sick relative and all everyone would tell me is "how bad their day was" or worse, just how much ground they gained in making the right decisions! I really am happy for you. Now, go away.

The therapist needed therapy, or she needed to kill all her devices. Now if that would have been do-able I would have. Never did. Still the following looked so appealing:

But I could not do it. Loser alert!

Contextual "depression" - how, why, and when?

Imagine you are getting dressed for a night on the town. You live with your family, so you're half a basket case already, and every single man, woman and child has something better to do. Either that, or they are sick as well. You just happen to think a night of slightly deviant behaviour might lift your spirits. No pun intended. Then again, one spirit down the throat could have helped. I am not talking debauchery here. Just dinner, music and ONE drink. If I ended up sleeping on a sofa - so, be it.

The problem with CONTEXTUAL depression is it's blooming contagious. We are the transmitters and the sufferers of 'the world we live in' problems. So yes, we can fix it. Our depression, not the worlds.

All we jolly well must do is practice self-care. Eat well. Read a book. Go play! Therein lies the problem, it's a dangerous world. Me wanting to climb the jungle gym at the park could literally be lethal, my own clumsiness aside.

So, number one - physical safety: mastered (not that my yoga and aikido is safe, but I don't live in a bubble.

Number two - mental safety. Now that one is a doozy. Yes, my brain is safe from toxic substance, an MRI and unwanted lobotomization. At least as far as I'm aware. Who really knows these days? i do live in a town where black buffalo, lion and tigers walk the streets. There are snakes in the garden and bloodsucking insects too. How my parents raised a child who loved playing barefoot I will never understand.

My kid? I would stick her in a hazmat suit. The boy could get the bubble. That is not me being sexist. i know the boy would get a computer and gaming system in there. Just as I am certain she would be a little social butterfly. Genetics do not lie. They do deceive, but that is a whole different sack I'm not diving into here. Not today, maybe not ever.

That leaves us with the last pertinent number (there are more) but time flies.

👆is a lie. Yes! I should have trimmed the photo, except that would mess with my emotions. So just deal. It's not a book you're reading here. (No, they would not allow the picture! I know.) Then again, I could create the same picture - but that's more work! 🥹

Number three = Emotional safety???

I must buy that book! In South-Africa it will take nine months to get here. What is cheap in Euros ad dollars might cost me a kidney in any case. Lucky for me, I still have all my uni-textbooks and Google Play. Suddenly overcome with the urge to type maniacal laughter. Let's not and say I did.

Emotional safety is once again, sensible behaviour. Stepping away from a toxic person or event. It sounds easy enough. It really is not. Feelings (not just yours) get hurt. People are touchy, especially when feeling ignored/ intimidated/ or misunderstood. The tightrope between your own sanity and another's insanity (no one is insane here, - but they can be a bit "batty"). That rope is narrow and frayed. Keep yourself "emotionally safe "by noticing these things. Remember, the truth can cut one deeper than a sword. Refrain from using words as bullets. I'm working on it, problem is, it's got a hairy trigger.

Let us all agree to not point anything at anyone. Humanity is scarred enough. Keep yourself safe, keep your loved ones safe (even if it does mean you lock yourself away at times). The kids will learn, your family will adapt. You might not be popular, but you'll still be loved.

Act like you are sensible. Eventually, you will be. Have fun with it. No-one likes "Them Sensible ones". So just read the room.

For those of you still heading into an office every day, love your employees. Make them smile. The day you do not want to hear if everyone is fine, that's the day you just don't ask. The whole problem with "Karma" is - that might end up being the ONE day they wanted to be asked. I know, it happened to me. Luckily, I was paying attention. Then again if a person tells everyone without being prompted "I died two days ago" and you happen to be the one that says "explain that please" - well, neither of you stand a chance of being the MVP that day. No, I did not save a life. For one day I was somebody's angel.

So far, so good. Every day the angel side wins, my wings grow stronger. Honesty, integrity, kindness, and humility takes you far. Passion and curiosity are virtues one cannot buy.

Am I engaging in risky behaviour? I sure am. Somebody must. I might need my own counsellor and start a "gratitude" journal. One day, when "this old enough to know better" concept kicks in. As is, I have several journals. I also have a bible. For which I am grateful. Due to that, I may not be safe, but I am protected. The bible/ Koran/ Tora act as a binding spell. If we believe.

Sending love across the waves. If the note in the bottle says "help me" don't worry much. I've either stolen a ship or went to a better place. If I hit your head with a coconut, we might have an issue. I will make you read my emails, including the spam. I can't think of a better punishment. (Yes, of course I will have me emails with me! How uncivilised does a lady have to become? They may be stuck in my mermaid tail, but rest assured - if I cannot avoid them, you have no chance.)

Contextual depression

If you are still unsure what I mean with this - just stop what you are doing. Leave it. Find a bookstore and watch some movies. Read more than super-hero comic book. Even Spiderman is "contextually depressed". It's not that difficult to understand. That's fine, you obviously don't suffer from it. You're so adorable, I might swallow you whole ;)

Resigner (not yet resigned!)

Enjoy. Live, laugh, love. Remember to just move forward, including you my subhuman tribe!

#justmoveforward

Postscript:

Keep on reading.

Post postscript

Placed #3 in Emerald League on Duolingo, #4 in Amethyst, now ready to dominate the Pearl league!

https://youtu.be/Ls0WfopgR9k

Choosing what is best for oneself.

~ if I had a clue about which therapeutic book contained these lessons, I would share the title!

Obviously, the first thing to go is memory. I could have been taking notes. Instead, I just recorded the screen. Hey, it was hectic day. I promise to go look for it! Later. I solemnly swear that I will devote more time on this topic. We need to know this.

My Saturday went more like this:

At which point I was sorely tempted to just curl into a pathetic foetal ball and construct a tent, with a big

🚫 sign.

I had a rough week. A sick relative and all everyone would tell me is "how bad their day was" or worse, just how much ground they gained in making the right decisions! I really am happy for you. Now, go away.

The therapist needed therapy, or she needed to kill all her devices. Now if that would have been do-able I would have. Never did. Still the following looked so appealing:

But I could not do it. Loser alert!

Contextual "depression" - how, why, and when?

Imagine you are getting dressed for a night on the town. You live with your family, so you're half a basket case already, and every single man, woman and child has something better to do. Either that, or they are sick as well. You just happen to think a night of slightly deviant behaviour might lift your spirits. No pun intended. Then again, one spirit down the throat could have helped. I am not talking debauchery here. Just dinner, music and ONE drink. If I ended up sleeping on a sofa - so, be it.

The problem with CONTEXTUAL depression is it's blooming contagious. We are the transmitters and the sufferers of 'the world we live in' problems. So yes, we can fix it. Our depression, not the worlds.

All we jolly well must do is practice self-care. Eat well. Read a book. Go play! Therein lies the problem, it's a dangerous world. Me wanting to climb the jungle gym at the park could literally be lethal, my own clumsiness aside.

So, number one - physical safety: mastered (not that my yoga and aikido is safe, but I don't live in a bubble.

Number two - mental safety. Now that one is a doozy. Yes, my brain is safe from toxic substance, an MRI and unwanted lobotomization. At least as far as I'm aware. Who really knows these days? i do live in a town where black buffalo, lion and tigers walk the streets. There are snakes in the garden and bloodsucking insects too. How my parents raised a child who loved playing barefoot I will never understand.

My kid? I would stick her in a hazmat suit. The boy could get the bubble. That is not me being sexist. i know the boy would get a computer and gaming system in there. Just as I am certain she would be a little social butterfly. Genetics do not lie. They do deceive, but that is a whole different sack I'm not diving into here. Not today, maybe not ever.

That leaves us with the last pertinent number (there are more) but time flies.

👆is a lie. Yes! I should have trimmed the photo, except that would mess with my emotions. So just deal. It's not a book you're reading here. (No, they would not allow the picture! I know.) Then again, I could create the same picture - but that's more work! 🥹

Number three = Emotional safety???

I must buy that book! In South-Africa it will take nine months to get here. What is cheap in Euros ad dollars might cost me a kidney in any case. Lucky for me, I still have all my uni-textbooks and Google Play. Suddenly overcome with the urge to type maniacal laughter. Let's not and say I did.

Emotional safety is once again, sensible behaviour. Stepping away from a toxic person or event. It sounds easy enough. It really is not. Feelings (not just yours) get hurt. People are touchy, especially when feeling ignored/ intimidated/ or misunderstood. The tightrope between your own sanity and another's insanity (no one is insane here, - but they can be a bit "batty"). That rope is narrow and frayed. Keep yourself "emotionally safe "by noticing these things. Remember, the truth can cut one deeper than a sword. Refrain from using words as bullets. I'm working on it, problem is, it's got a hairy trigger.

Let us all agree to not point anything at anyone. Humanity is scarred enough. Keep yourself safe, keep your loved ones safe (even if it does mean you lock yourself away at times). The kids will learn, your family will adapt. You might not be popular, but you'll still be loved.

Act like you are sensible. Eventually, you will be. Have fun with it. No-one likes "Them Sensible ones". So just read the room.

For those of you still heading into an office every day, love your employees. Make them smile. The day you do not want to hear if everyone is fine, that's the day you just don't ask. The whole problem with "Karma" is - that might end up being the ONE day they wanted to be asked. I know, it happened to me. Luckily, I was paying attention. Then again if a person tells everyone without being prompted "I died two days ago" and you happen to be the one that says "explain that please" - well, neither of you stand a chance of being the MVP that day. No, I did not save a life. For one day I was somebody's angel.

So far, so good. Every day the angel side wins, my wings grow stronger. Honesty, integrity, kindness, and humility takes you far. Passion and curiosity are virtues one cannot buy.

Am I engaging in risky behaviour? I sure am. Somebody must. I might need my own counsellor and start a "gratitude" journal. One day, when "this old enough to know better" concept kicks in. As is, I have several journals. I also have a bible. For which I am grateful. Due to that, I may not be safe, but I am protected. The bible/ Koran/ Tora act as a binding spell. If we believe.

Sending love across the waves. If the note in the bottle says "help me" don't worry much. I've either stolen a ship or went to a better place. If I hit your head with a coconut, we might have an issue. I will make you read my emails, including the spam. I can't think of a better punishment. (Yes, of course I will have me emails with me! How uncivilised does a lady have to become? They may be stuck in my mermaid tail, but rest assured - if I cannot avoid them, you have no chance.)

Contextual depression

If you are still unsure what I mean with this - just stop what you are doing. Leave it. Find a bookstore and watch some movies. Read more than super-hero comic book. Even Spiderman is "contextually depressed". It's not that difficult to understand. That's fine, you obviously don't suffer from it. You're so adorable, I might swallow you whole ;)

Resigner (not yet resigned!)

Enjoy. Live, laugh, love. Remember to just move forward, including you my subhuman tribe!

#justmoveforward

Postscript:

Keep on reading.

Post postscript

Placed #3 in Emerald League on Duolingo, #4 in Amethyst, now ready to dominate the Pearl league!

https://youtu.be/Ls0WfopgR9k

Choosing what is best for oneself.

~ if I had a clue about which therapeutic book contained these lessons, I would share the title!

Obviously, the first thing to go is memory. I could have been taking notes. Instead, I just recorded the screen. Hey, it was hectic day. I promise to go look for it! Later. I solemnly swear that I will devote more time on this topic. We need to know this.

My Saturday went more like this:

At which point I was sorely tempted to just curl into a pathetic foetal ball and construct a tent, with a big

🚫 sign.

I had a rough week. A sick relative and all everyone would tell me is "how bad their day was" or worse, just how much ground they gained in making the right decisions! I really am happy for you. Now, go away.

The therapist needed therapy, or she needed to kill all her devices. Now if that would have been do-able I would have. Never did. Still the following looked so appealing:

But I could not do it. Loser alert!

Contextual "depression" - how, why, and when?

Imagine you are getting dressed for a night on the town. You live with your family, so you're half a basket case already, and every single man, woman and child has something better to do. Either that, or they are sick as well. You just happen to think a night of slightly deviant behaviour might lift your spirits. No pun intended. Then again, one spirit down the throat could have helped. I am not talking debauchery here. Just dinner, music and ONE drink. If I ended up sleeping on a sofa - so, be it.

The problem with CONTEXTUAL depression is it's blooming contagious. We are the transmitters and the sufferers of 'the world we live in' problems. So yes, we can fix it. Our depression, not the worlds.

All we jolly well must do is practice self-care. Eat well. Read a book. Go play! Therein lies the problem, it's a dangerous world. Me wanting to climb the jungle gym at the park could literally be lethal, my own clumsiness aside.

So, number one - physical safety: mastered (not that my yoga and aikido is safe, but I don't live in a bubble.

Number two - mental safety. Now that one is a doozy. Yes, my brain is safe from toxic substance, an MRI and unwanted lobotomization. At least as far as I'm aware. Who really knows these days? i do live in a town where black buffalo, lion and tigers walk the streets. There are snakes in the garden and bloodsucking insects too. How my parents raised a child who loved playing barefoot I will never understand.

My kid? I would stick her in a hazmat suit. The boy could get the bubble. That is not me being sexist. i know the boy would get a computer and gaming system in there. Just as I am certain she would be a little social butterfly. Genetics do not lie. They do deceive, but that is a whole different sack I'm not diving into here. Not today, maybe not ever.

That leaves us with the last pertinent number (there are more) but time flies.

👆is a lie. Yes! I should have trimmed the photo, except that would mess with my emotions. So just deal. It's not a book you're reading here. (No, they would not allow the picture! I know.) Then again, I could create the same picture - but that's more work! 🥹

Number three = Emotional safety???

I must buy that book! In South-Africa it will take nine months to get here. What is cheap in Euros ad dollars might cost me a kidney in any case. Lucky for me, I still have all my uni-textbooks and Google Play. Suddenly overcome with the urge to type maniacal laughter. Let's not and say I did.

Emotional safety is once again, sensible behaviour. Stepping away from a toxic person or event. It sounds easy enough. It really is not. Feelings (not just yours) get hurt. People are touchy, especially when feeling ignored/ intimidated/ or misunderstood. The tightrope between your own sanity and another's insanity (no one is insane here, - but they can be a bit "batty"). That rope is narrow and frayed. Keep yourself "emotionally safe "by noticing these things. Remember, the truth can cut one deeper than a sword. Refrain from using words as bullets. I'm working on it, problem is, it's got a hairy trigger.

Let us all agree to not point anything at anyone. Humanity is scarred enough. Keep yourself safe, keep your loved ones safe (even if it does mean you lock yourself away at times). The kids will learn, your family will adapt. You might not be popular, but you'll still be loved.

Act like you are sensible. Eventually, you will be. Have fun with it. No-one likes "Them Sensible ones". So just read the room.

For those of you still heading into an office every day, love your employees. Make them smile. The day you do not want to hear if everyone is fine, that's the day you just don't ask. The whole problem with "Karma" is - that might end up being the ONE day they wanted to be asked. I know, it happened to me. Luckily, I was paying attention. Then again if a person tells everyone without being prompted "I died two days ago" and you happen to be the one that says "explain that please" - well, neither of you stand a chance of being the MVP that day. No, I did not save a life. For one day I was somebody's angel.

So far, so good. Every day the angel side wins, my wings grow stronger. Honesty, integrity, kindness, and humility takes you far. Passion and curiosity are virtues one cannot buy.

Am I engaging in risky behaviour? I sure am. Somebody must. I might need my own counsellor and start a "gratitude" journal. One day, when "this old enough to know better" concept kicks in. As is, I have several journals. I also have a bible. For which I am grateful. Due to that, I may not be safe, but I am protected. The bible/ Koran/ Tora act as a binding spell. If we believe.

Sending love across the waves. If the note in the bottle says "help me" don't worry much. I've either stolen a ship or went to a better place. If I hit your head with a coconut, we might have an issue. I will make you read my emails, including the spam. I can't think of a better punishment. (Yes, of course I will have me emails with me! How uncivilised does a lady have to become? They may be stuck in my mermaid tail, but rest assured - if I cannot avoid them, you have no chance.)

Contextual depression

If you are still unsure what I mean with this - just stop what you are doing. Leave it. Find a bookstore and watch some movies. Read more than super-hero comic book. Even Spiderman is "contextually depressed". It's not that difficult to understand. That's fine, you obviously don't suffer from it. You're so adorable, I might swallow you whole ;)

Resigner (not yet resigned!)

Enjoy. Live, laugh, love. Remember to just move forward, including you my subhuman tribe!

#justmoveforward

Postscript:

Keep on reading.

Post postscript

Placed #3 in Emerald League on Duolingo, #4 in Amethyst, now ready to dominate the Pearl league!

https://youtu.be/Ls0WfopgR9k